Appreciation vs Expectation in Relationships

Appreciation and expectation are two very different things, yet often confused. Appreciation is a feeling of gratitude and thankfulness for something or someone, while expectation is a belief or assumption that something will happen or someone will behave in a certain way. Appreciation is based on what has already been given or received, while expectation is based on what we think should be given or received. When we have expectations, we set ourselves up for disappointment. We place a burden on ourselves and others to meet certain standards that may be unrealistic or unfair. When our expectations are not met, we may feel angry, frustrated, or resentful. On the other hand, when we approach situations with appreciation, we acknowledge what is already present and focus on the positive aspects. We allow ourselves to feel grateful for what we have, rather than constantly seeking more.

, appreciation and expectation can have…